Value they are adding to their own lives by learning: It is very important for us to switch to a growth mindset and show our children that they are learning. Praise behaviour and attributes that they have control over. We need to make a conscious effort to appreciate the effort, focus and commitment that out children show. This comes from being praised only for success. Most child prodigies who may drop out of the race report they started valuing themselves if they achieved. Praise needs to be better planned, and offered with caution. Recognize not just accomplishments but also the effort: We as parents often offer quick praise to demonstrate our support.
This changes the synaptic activity in the brain, leaving it refreshed.Īllowing a child to share feelings: This is key as the child may just feel better by voicing their fatigue and feel supported when listened to and accepted. If they have been cracking math problems, taking a walk or doing jumping jacks will help. For example, if they have been training for football, a sit-down activity or fun board game will help them recharge. Try and provide opportunities for children to recharge by doing something that is different from what they have been doing in the last few hours. Time and space to recharge: Each child has likes and dislikes. Schedule for frequent short breaks: These breaks are not for us to dive in with our questions on what was learnt, they are for children to relax their bodies and minds. Spend the morning on conversation, planning, a healthy breakfast and cuddles. Start the morning with your children: Whether you get busy or not later in the day, children do. While we all would love to create champions and respect the challenges a family goes through to guide and encourage children to achieve, often several sacrifices are made towards the goals, it is important to factor in fatigue, burnout and rebellion.Įvery child is unique and each has a different appetite that varies in timing, rigour and intensity. Which I might not have done as readily had I not read this book.This is a trade-off that parents often overlook. I don't know yet if painting will turn out to be one of his strengths, but I'm going to give him the tools and opportunities to try it out. When I asked him at the end if he liked it, he grinned and gave me a huge hug.
For example, although he rarely sits still and can barely hold a pencil, inspired by The Prodigy's Cousin and by talking to parents who have cultivated their autistic children's gifts, I let my son try out some free-form painting. What I am doing, however, is focusing more on my son's strengths and pushing him to try new things. Certainly, I'm not trying to turn my son into a prodigy-though I lingered over the section where Ruthsatz considers if prodigies are born or made and how nurture and parenting can contribute to their growth. I underlined it several times, and I've taken it-and many other parts of the book- into my daily life. As a mom to a wonderful, neurodiverse autistic 7-year-old, I deeply appreciate this assertion.
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